tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post7434094910842534564..comments2023-10-26T04:48:15.750-04:00Comments on Ryan's Life: Girly Boy?Ryanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01103056885949384521noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-10812527559104087232011-05-30T10:31:22.888-04:002011-05-30T10:31:22.888-04:00I suppose Gays are like Crayolas there are tons of...I suppose Gays are like Crayolas there are tons of colors and some of them you like a lot and some you might leave in the box until they get neglected and crack from mishandling. You forget how fascinating the collection was when it was all brand new. <br />It is good you are accepting people in all their shades of glory. <br />You are like everyone else in finding your preferences of personalities to gravitate towards. I think it is admirable that you are so open minded. <br />Nice Post.<br />E-GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-45931980517682466872011-05-24T21:09:32.799-04:002011-05-24T21:09:32.799-04:00I avoid drag queens. I'm a closet case. I enjo...I avoid drag queens. I'm a closet case. I enjoy guys who act like guys. I'm on your side. <br /><br />A statement made by a mentor year ago still rings true: "If you can't remember me kindly, then kindly don't remember me."<br /><br />Another mentor told me "The perfect companion should be compatible socially, be a chef in the kitchen, and a whore in the bedroom."<br /><br />I'm still seeking that perfect companion.<br /><br />Out of side, out of mind. Don't make me watch.<br />KJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-62816377037292839752011-05-24T14:25:47.637-04:002011-05-24T14:25:47.637-04:00Did you ever stop to think how that young man must...Did you ever stop to think how that young man must feel? I mean he has probably had to put up with that taunting and teasing and harassment all his life. And now even as a young adult he still had to hear it and defend himself. Like you he wasn't asked to be born this way, it's just the way he is. Can you agree with that? I wonder how he felt when you told him to "Act like a man" I sure he has heard those words before maybe from his father or mother or people at school. I'm just asking did you ever stop and think about his feelings first and how they can feel like a punch in the gut? You’re a good person I'm sure but if ever we are all going to increase the love we have to stop the hate in all shapes and forms.<br /><br />AdamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-3640456399461006642011-05-24T04:43:59.502-04:002011-05-24T04:43:59.502-04:00On June 27th, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in New Yo...On June 27th, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in New York City, the "Gay and Lesbian Liberation" began. I was 23 years old. We became visible and united. It was US against THEM, and nothing could divide us.<br /><br />Forty two years later, the "cause" has come full-circle. Instead of US against THEM, it is US against US. We have become our own worst enemy, and I am just as guilty as the next guy. It's so sad.............<br /><br />Respectfully,...... "FOGGY".....RayManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16874075256064028607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-66564598097957132182011-05-23T18:04:00.144-04:002011-05-23T18:04:00.144-04:00I'm honestly not sure how I feel about this. ...I'm honestly not sure how I feel about this. I do understand how sometimes more effimanat guys can be somewhat annoying. But there are times that I play around with some of my other gay friends by saying things like "Ooh Girl!". Granted, we're doing it just because it's fun and just between us. But sometimes I think it does go to the other extreme as well, and that's a person's personal choice so what right do I have to say anything?<br /><br />I know we all reach our breaking points, and yes, sometimes things like this make me want to say the same thing too. I don't think that they had the right to say what they did to you either. Hell, I don't get the whole leather man thing and to some degree it just seems dumb to me. We all are allowed to have our own opinions on things and our own feelings.<br /><br />I'm not sure what to say about how the whole situation went down, but it just sounds like you were coming from two VERY different places (and apparently the other side can't see you for what a wonderful guy you are).Michael The Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268563414339842464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-50201835499842425612011-05-23T14:28:19.061-04:002011-05-23T14:28:19.061-04:00Sadly it is usually the flaming screaming fairy qu...Sadly it is usually the flaming screaming fairy queens that the media focus on in news reports ( think coverage of gay pride events) and I am set back by it. They make everyone out to be this way and its embarrassing to the rest of us who are not ! I am a guy, I like guys and want a man to be a man, not act like a girl or be nelly! If I wanted to be with a girl I would be straight!!! This is MY PREFERENCE. I see no reason to act like many do just because your GAY. Having said this, I also respect the other persons right to be whatever they want, as long as they don't push it on me. I guess that's why I hang with my click and that is usually the preppy crowd..<br />BTW, long term relationships do exist in our community ( meaning more than a few month's LOL) , my partner and I have 14 years under our belt, and we are still happy in every aspect..........................Jon WinshipAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-84738621737330110642011-05-23T13:43:12.434-04:002011-05-23T13:43:12.434-04:00I still don't think that you should get up in ...I still don't think that you should get up in someone's face over their mannerisms. As you say, no one should be picked on or bullied but isn't that exactly what you did? If I am reading the post correctly, you made fun of someone outloud because you don't care for feminine gays. I wholeheartedly agree that you are entitled to your opinion, but in the interest of ettique you should have bitten your tongue, left the room or otherwise channeled your thoughts in a nonconfrontational way. I love you, too, Ryan, but I'll not hesitate to point out what I see as immature behavior. BTW, how did the target of this comment respond? How about his friend? How about Kadin? Oh and they were also wrong for judging you and saying you aren't right for Kadin. But two wrongs don't make a right either. Just sayin' big guy. Peace <3<br />JayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-34849195202380511482011-05-23T12:09:15.098-04:002011-05-23T12:09:15.098-04:00I'm with Jay on this. You have a perfect right...I'm with Jay on this. You have a perfect right to your feelings, and I basically feel the same way you do about guys who are extremely feminine.<br /><br />But in a social setting like that your main job is to get along with everybody else. Everybody, yourself included, will be happier if you force yourself to keep opinions like that to yourself. It may not be easy, but you can do it.<br /><br />Here's a tip that might help. If somebody annoys you a lot, ask Kadin to step away for a private conversation, and tell him how you feel. That way you don't have to keep your feelings bottled up, but you also avoid starting a fight.<br /><br />Now if somebody says something really outrageous, like he likes dogfights, you are entitled to tell him that you think we should treat all animals humanely. The more calmly you do it, the better. Again, you avoid bottling up your feelings, but you may also avoid starting a big fight.<br /><br />Ask Kadin to help you keep your cool if he notices you getting upset.naturgesetzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15268507379933286863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-65281912611372174112011-05-23T10:44:21.482-04:002011-05-23T10:44:21.482-04:00Ryan....yeah it is always tough to hold your tongu...Ryan....yeah it is always tough to hold your tongue. I have never been a fan of very feminine guys but I respect their rights and would defend them the same as anyone. <br /><br />That being said, agree that we sometimes have to just buck up and say nothing. When I open my mouth is when I tend to get in trouble, especially if I am pissed off.<br /><br />I have tried to judge others less lately...at least on their looks, mannerisms, or weight. But, if they are assholes who try to deny others equal rights (in other words us gays) then it is a different story.<br /><br />So yep agree with Jay but still love ya babe!<br /><br />EricEricnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-44187734951814926672011-05-23T10:14:30.584-04:002011-05-23T10:14:30.584-04:00thanks carl i think you got what i was saying.
i ...thanks carl i think you got what i was saying.<br /><br />i just want to make it clear that nobody should be bullied over how they act. <br /><br />its just being a gay guy i dont understand this and why guys act like this but gives nobody the right to pick on them or bully them cause they do!Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01103056885949384521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-31175895934608178102011-05-23T10:14:02.587-04:002011-05-23T10:14:02.587-04:00Yes, but aren't others allowed to like whom th...Yes, but aren't others allowed to like whom they wish? I kind of look at it like this: I'm gay, so why should a straight guy worry about me? Less competition for him. As a gay guy, it's fine if someone else prefers a different type of man than I do because it's less competition for me! <br /><br />You shouldn't judge others, and as far as the social settings, if someone gets under your skin either buck up and let it go, or leave, Kadin notwithstanding. It can't be worth getting into a shouting match over something that truly does not affect you at all.<br /><br />Now you know I normally come down on your side, Ryan, but this time, I think you're wrong. Remember...judge not lest ye be judged...<br /><br />Peace <3<br />JayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16273390.post-38760982997919130532011-05-23T10:12:16.800-04:002011-05-23T10:12:16.800-04:00Everyone has a right to feel the way they do. Who...Everyone has a right to feel the way they do. Who is worse, someone who is honest about how they feel or someone who hides how they feel. I would rather know the truth about someone than someone who hides.<br /><br />That is one thing I respect about you. You don't hide.Carlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08083498117284588535noreply@blogger.com