Love is Alive

Never thought I would be in this spot but here I am. I like 3 guys yeah I know I need to share. Really I never thought this would happen but it has. There is Derek ya'll know about I do like him and we have gotten along great but I'm not 100% sure about him. Then there is 2 more I don't want to speak there names just yet. One is in his late 20's the other in his late 30's. I like them both a lot and could see me trying it with them.There is a part of me that's scared to try anything new just getting out of a long term wasn't looking to jump back into another one. The thing is I think I'm happiest when I am with someone when I have a boyfriend. I'm not the kind of person to jump from cock to cock. Don't get me wrong I've had one nighters but there just not me I would rather find some net porn and whack off than sleep with someone I don't know just to get off. I know a little too much info but it is my blog and I'm gonna just say what's on my mind.The thing is I don't like leading people on and I feel that's what I'm doing. I don't know how to just pick one and tell the others without hurting there feelings. I never thought 3 guys would be interested in me in the first place. I know one thing for sure it's just not right and I need to make a choice and hope the others understand and at least wants to be friends. So any advice on this would be great!

8 Responses
  1. Aaron Says:

    Well, maybe polyamory is for you? All three can move in and they'll just have to share you! hehehe

  2. CreamedHoney Says:

    How about trying them one at a time
    starting with the one you think's most compatible first.

  3. Anonymous Says:

    Dear Ryan,
    you are not leading them on. Everyone must choose for himself in the first place. Just be open to them about the situation you are in: liking them all, not wanting to hurt anyone, not knowing what to do, so meeting everyone of them to see what feels best. This way they know, where they stand, and you enable them to make their own choice. Just follow your heart. Nothing is bad as long as you don't hurt anyone purposely.

  4. ryan field Says:

    Just be honest with them all. I've dated more than one guy at a time and I've told them. Unless you're in a serious monogamous relationship that you want to build, you have every right to see more than one guy at the same time. Usually, the problems arise when you're not honest and up front.

    And, if you eventually decide you like one more than the other two, then you can start working on a monogamous relationship.

  5. naturgesetz Says:

    Ryan Field said just about what I would have said. You don't need to make a choice until you know it's the one you want to make.

    Of course, the other guys could also make a choice that they don't want to go beyond friendship. Maybe only one will end up wanting a bf relationship with you. Even if that happens, of course you still get to choose whether he's right for you.

    Hope it all goes well.

  6. Anonymous Says:

    Don't rush things...It will
    all work out the way it should
    and when it should...Just DO NOT
    and i will repeat DO NOT have
    sexual relations with ANY of
    them...just wait till you're
    ready in your heart to give
    100% to the one who will
    complete you...also wait till
    YOU are 100% ready to be the one
    to complete on of them as well...

    You know i love you and i worry
    all the time about you so just
    for once listen to my advice
    and you will not get hurt nor
    will you hurt any of them...

    I LOVES YOU 100%!!!!!



  7. DH Starr Says:

    Hey Ryan:

    With I had your problems. But seriously, there are no hard and fast rules in love except for what everyone already said, be honest.

    Plus, don't forget these guys are grown men and can take responsibility for their choices as well.


  8. Unfortunately no advise, but I think the other Ryan said it best; but there is no way not to hurt other people when they really love you, so it's tough of course; decisions have to made at one point & if someone feels rejected, try to feel his pain, but not all of it, you're responsible for your own well-being & life first, you can't love the whole world, that would be like wine with too much water in it.